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Once again we have a lot less commitments, therefore we have a lot of free time. I know we are all quick to say we have zero free time, but that’s not true. I surveyed a lot of women who are already married with kids and they literally have zero free time. They go to work, cook for their family, take care of the kids, and so on. For most of us our only responsibilities are school or work. If you have time to binge watch netflix shows, you definitely have free time. 

So take advantage of this free time. Do things that will actually benefit your life, don’t waste this valuable precious time. You might never get it back. 

I know society has put so much pressure on us to have our life figured out and it can feel so overwhelming, but know it’s ok to not have it all figured out. You don’t have to have a 10 year plan, because life never goes as planned anyways. So do your best to work hard, be responsible, but don’t pressure yourself to have everything figured out. Give yourself some grace. 

This one is hard. 

We all want to please others, especially our parents. But if you are constantly trying to please others, you are going to lose yourself in the process. You’ll never know who you are because you are constantly going to do things other people want you to do. It’s not a bad thing to want to make others happy, but make sure you set some boundaries. Don’t do things just to please others, because the truth is no, matter how hard you try it’s going to be impossible to please some people, so you might as well focus on the things you want to do. 

In our 20s there are so many outside factors that pressure us to graduate, find a soulmate, get married, have kids, buy a house, and so on. Some of your friends might be already married with kids, some of them might be getting promotions at their jobs, and at times it can feel like you are falling behind.

In these moments try to remind yourself it’s OK to go at your own pace. You don’t have to follow some unspoken rule. You don’t have to get married right now. You don’t need to go out and find a high paying job. Stop letting society control your life. You are fine. Keep doing you. 

This one is very important. 

 I know this stage of life can feel very lonely. You are in a very awkward spot. You are expected to be independent, be an adult, but you have very little guidance and it can feel so lonely. However, know that you are for sure not alone. There are so many people out there feeling the exact same way. You are definitely not alone. 

10. Take care of your mental health 

We are so quick to talk about taking care of our physical health, but we usually neglect our mental health. We see no problem in going to a doctor for a broken leg, but we are hesitant to go to therapy. It shouldn’t be like that. We need to nurture our mental health too. It’s OK to seek help when we are struggling mentaly, and the sooner you learn this lesson the better your life will be. 

Personally I have been going to therapy for the past 3 years and it has been life changing. I 10/10 recommend it. 

Investing in yourself can look different for everyone. Maybe it’s hiring a life coach, going to therapy, reading a book, listening to a podcast, or just simply taking the time to rest and have some self care days. Do things that are going to fill you up. Your future self will be thankful for these investments you made in your life in your early 20s. 

The people you surround yourself with will have a huge influence on you. So be aware of who you spend a lot of time with. Try not to hang out with toxic people, those people will suck all the energy out of you. Instead, find people who are going to push you and encourage you to become a better person. 

It is so easy to compare yourself to others in your 20s because everyone around seems to be doing big things. Your friends might already be getting married, getting a big job, having kids, and you can start to slowly feel like you’re not good enough. That’s what comparison does. It steals your joy. So don’t let it. Stop comparing your accomplishments to others. Be proud of yourself. You are doing just fine. 

Take the risk. Take the job. Move away. Just do it. Don’t hold yourself back. 

15. Be yourself 

This might sound kinda lame but seriously just be yourself. You are the only you in this world. So stop trying to change yourself into becoming someone you’re not. Plus, trying to act like someone else is so draining. So just be you. 

This might sound morbid, but your parents are not going to live forever, so make sure you take the time to appreciate them. I know we all have our own busy life but make sure you still take some time to go visit your parents. Also, they might actually have some wisdom to share with you. So listen to them. Appreciate them. And let them know you’re thankful for them. 

This one is for those who are still in school. If you are one that stresses out every time you get a B, stop. You are going to drive yourself crazy. Grades do not define you. Make sure your identity is not wrapped up in how well you do in school. Just work hard and do your best. And if your best is a D then be it. 

Decluttering can look very different. You can declutter and get rid of toxic people, you can declutter your living area, you can declutter your closet. Start by getting rid of those jeans you no longer fit into. Stop shaming yourself for no longer being able to fit into the jeans you wore in high school. Decluttering your life will give you so much freedom. 

I know this is a hard and very stressful stage of life, but don’t forget to HAVE FUN!

20. Know. Your. Worth. 

For real, know your worth. Don’t let others take advantage of you. You are a unique and special individual. Know that! The sooner you realize it yourself, the more confident you will become. Knowing your worth is going to save you from so much pain and heart aches in life. 

Again, I know this stage of life can bring a lot of hardship, but I hope this blog helps you realize you're definitely not alone. There are others out there struggling with those same issues you’re struggling with. Keep going. Keep working hard, take the time to rest, and take care of yourself. 

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